Life is a bitter reality; just as we begin to understand it, it ends.
It is a complex journey woven with emotions, challenges, and regrets. We often find ourselves consumed by endless thoughts—“What if I had done this?” or “If only things were different.” Amid these inner conversations, there’s one undeniable truth: life makes us cry more than it makes us laugh.
Yes we cry over the smallest things. And rightly so After all, crying is the very first thing a newborn does even before drinking their mother’s milk. If the baby doesn’t cry, the doctor gets worried, thinking something might be wrong. This is probably the only time when doctors, nurses, and parents all wish for the baby to cry.
But as we grow older, crying becomes a problem. If you cry later in life, people say, “Why do you cry over little things? You’re so weak!”
Stop! Please stop telling people not to cry. Cry your heart out. Until you cry, you won’t feel lighter, and without lightening your heart, how can you carry the weight of life?
What’s important is when, where, and in front of whom you cry. This isn’t just necessary—it’s crucial. If these things aren’t managed right, it can harm us more than the act of crying itself. The real danger lies in crying in front of the wrong person, in the wrong place, at the wrong time.
If you lose a relationship, cry—cry in front of that person. Try to save the relationship. Do it once, do it twice. If it gives your heart peace, try a third time too. But if the relationship still slips away, there will be pain, anger, and perhaps regret. At that point, cry alone, or in front of someone who won’t judge you for your tears. Believe me, there is always at least one person in life who stands by you. And if, unfortunately, there isn’t, make a new friend, a Mirror.
Go in front of the mirror, cry in solitude, and cry as much as you need. The pain will subside faster if you release it through tears. Try it—grieve for a day or two, and you’ll see, it’s rare to cry over the same pain for more than ten days. Sadness lingers, but crying it out brings relief to the heart and soul.
Many people don’t realize that crying is a form of therapy—an inner therapy. Only when you are strong inside can you appear strong on the outside. Those who are weak inside but try to look tough on the outside often end up failing. Frustration builds up, and they become angry and irritable because they don’t release what’s bottled up inside.
So instead of venting in unhealthy ways at the wrong time or place, let yourself cry—either alone or in front of someone you trust.
About two years ago, an elderly, disabled woman in our family passed away. She had no children, and her husband had already passed, so she became our responsibility. After my marriage, I took care of her, hoping for spiritual reward, but over time, I grew deeply attached to her.
One day, she developed a fever and passed away that night. To others, she was just an old woman whose passing felt like a relief. I stayed busy with household chores and visitors for two days, but I began feeling strange frustration and anger, snapping at the children without reason.
One night, as I was putting my younger son to sleep, I realized how irritable I had become. That’s when it hit me—I hadn’t cried yet. The bottled-up emotions were weighing me down. At that moment, I couldn’t hold back anymore and cried uncontrollably. It felt like the grief I had ignored in front of others finally poured out.
Afterward, I talked to my husband, which helped ease my heart even more. Until I cried, I didn’t realize how much those emotions were affecting me. Once I let it out, I felt as if a heavy burden had been lifted from my heart.
The Science Behind Crying: How Tears Bring Emotional Relief
Crying is not just an emotional response; it also has a calming effect on our bodies. Scientists explain that emotional tears contain stress-related chemicals, such as cortisol, and when we cry, these chemicals are released, helping to reduce stress. Crying activates the parasympathetic nervous system, which promotes relaxation and allows our body to recover from emotional strain. That’s why, after crying, people often feel lighter and more at peace. It also triggers the release of endorphins—our body’s natural painkillers—bringing both emotional relief and a sense of calm. Crying is like a reset for our mind, helping us process difficult emotions and feel more balanced afterward.
In the journey of life, tears are not obstacles but companions that guide us toward healing and self-awareness. They help us confront the weight of our emotions, making room for peace and acceptance. It’s essential to cry at the right time, in the right space, and with the right people—or even in solitude—because tears carry the power to cleanse both the heart and mind. By allowing ourselves to feel deeply and release our emotions, we cultivate the strength to carry life’s burdens with grace and resilience.
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