Time moves faster than we expect. One day, you’re getting your wedding dress fitted, and the next, you’re folding laundry as someone’s wife. In the blink of an eye, the magic of newlywed love can get lost in routines, responsibilities, and endless visits from relatives.
In the quiet moments after the wedding celebrations fade, when the lights are off and the guests have gone home, a new chapter begins—not one filled with noise, but with whispers, glances, and the soft heartbeat of togetherness. This is the time when two people, still strangers in many ways, begin writing their real story.
The first few weeks after marriage are very special. You’re still getting to know each other, and your hearts are quietly building a connection. Before life gets too busy and that sweet feeling starts to fade, it’s important to take a break, just the two of you. Not to run away from anything, but to enjoy the newness of love. That’s what a honeymoon is—not a luxury, but a beautiful chance to hold on to those early, unforgettable moments.
Before Coming to My Main Topic, Let Me Share Some Funny Origin Theories of the Word ‘Honeymoon’:
Medieval European Traditions
In medieval Europe, newlyweds were given a month’s supply of mead (a honey-based alcoholic drink) to ensure fertility and happiness. This period was called a honeymoon because it lasted one full lunar cycle (about a month).
First Recorded Use in English
The first known use of the word in English was in the 16th century when it appeared in literature with the meaning “the first month after marriage when things are still sweet.” Samuel Johnson’s 1755 dictionary defined it as “the first month of marriage when there is nothing but tenderness and pleasure.”
The Modern Concept of a Honeymoon
The idea of taking a post-wedding trip started in 19th-century Britain. Wealthy European couples in the early 1800s would go on a “bridal tour,” visiting relatives who couldn’t attend the wedding. By the late 19th and early 20th centuries, this evolved into the modern honeymoon, where couples travel alone for leisure and romance.
Fun Fact
The idea of a “honeymoon” being short-lived is reflected in old proverbs like: “The first month is honey, and the second is bitter as gall.”
So, the term “honeymoon” originally meant a sweet but temporary period in marriage, but today, it mainly refers to the post-wedding vacation.
Why Honeymoon?
As a married woman, I consider it extremely important for a couple to go on a honeymoon within two months of marriage, according to their financial capacity. This is a beautiful time when both spouses want to look at each other, talk endlessly, and spend lots of private moments together. Whereas, after a few months, the opposite might happen!
This is the period when romance is at its peak. Later on, all that’s left is exhaustion! You know that saying—“A gentleman will hold my hand, a man will pull my hair, and a soulmate will do both.”
So, before you reach that stage, get the tickets for a honeymoon!
How to Plan Your First Romantic Trip
In our society, especially in the middle class or lower middle class, if there’s only a brother among sisters, he also behaves like a sister! And if there are too many brothers, then if one leaves, the rest will also follow, creating a never-ending cycle. Our parents will blame us for starting a wrong tradition.
So, will there be a honeymoon? Most of the time, there isn’t—because here, planning a honeymoon is no less than organizing a Science project! You need funds, and you also have to deal with family technicalities. The internet is full of advice on how to plan a romantic trip or arrange budget-friendly tours.
But anyway, let me at least give you some guidelines! 😄
Spend Less on the Wedding and Save for the Honeymoon!
Yes! If you spend less on the wedding, there will be less pressure on the parents. And when there’s less pressure, convincing them will be easier. This should be done from both sides—the bride shouldn’t act overly entitled just because she’s the bride, nor should she turn the wedding into a long list of extravagant demands.
The grand feast at the Walima might not even be remembered 10 years later, but think about it—40 years later, you’ll still cherish the sweet memories of your time spent together on a beach, in the mountains, or amidst snowfall.
Don’t spend excessively on a lavish Walima. Don’t waste money on a dress worth lakhs that you’ll wear for just a few hours. Instead, save that money for honeymoon tickets!
Plan in Instalments!
I believe this is a much easier approach because wedding expenses will never truly decrease. So, why not start preparing a few months in advance?
Set aside a small monthly amount—entrust it to a reliable person or keep it safe. If both partners contribute little by little, they can arrange a beautiful and romantic honeymoon trip without financial stress! 😊
Lay the Groundwork Before Marriage
Well, all the sweet husbands, you have to do this because mostly the in-laws are the problem. So if possible, bring up the honeymoon topic before marriage to set expectations early.
Many conservative families see honeymoons as a “Western concept,” so present it in a way they can relate to. Explain that a honeymoon isn’t about extravagance, but about giving a newlywed couple time to bond away from distractions.
Choose a Family-Approved Destination
Instead of mentioning a typical “honeymoon” spot, suggest a place that seems acceptable to your family. If traveling abroad seems unrealistic, start with a local destination that doesn’t raise eyebrows.
Involve your parents in a lighthearted way—tell them, “Wherever you suggest, we’ll go!” If they don’t like the place you have in mind, quickly change the topic and take opinions from other family members.
Then, hold a lucky draw to decide the destination. But here’s the trick—write your preferred place on all the slips! 😆 Casually pick a slip, announce the “random” result with full confidence, and quickly pocket the remaining slips before anyone gets suspicious! 😜
Use the “Family Visit” Trick
If your family is totally against the idea, frame the trip as a visit to a relative or a family-friendly place. Example: If your husband has a cousin or family friend in another city, say you’ll be staying with them and exploring the area.
Get Support from a Trusted Family Member
If your parents are strict, ask a sensible elder (like an aunt, uncle, or older sibling) to support your request. Parents are often more convinced when the idea comes from someone they trust.
Keep It Short & Simple
If your parents are hesitant, suggest a shorter trip (2-3 days) instead of a long vacation. Pick a destination that isn’t too far, so they don’t worry about travel risks.
Respect Their Concerns, But Stay Firm
If your parents are worried about what “relatives will say,” acknowledge their concerns but explain that this is about your married life, not society’s opinion. Stay respectful, but firmly express your need for privacy as a newlywed couple.
Final and Most Important Tip: Avoid the Word ‘Honeymoon’ 😆
Sometimes, just avoiding the word honeymoon makes things easier. Instead, say:
- “We’d like to take a short trip after marriage to spend time together.”
- “It’ll be a small vacation to relax before settling into daily life.”
By presenting it as a simple, meaningful trip rather than a grand honeymoon, you’ll have a better chance of getting approval.
This was all about how to Plan Your First Romantic Trip. I hope it will help anyone.
“Your honeymoon isn’t just another trip—it’s a must-do experience after marriage. It’s the perfect chance to celebrate your love, create unforgettable memories, and start your new life together on the right note. So, make sure to book those tickets and give yourselves the time and space to truly enjoy each other’s company. After all, a honeymoon is the first adventure of your married life, and it’s one you’ll cherish forever.”